How our beliefs keep us stuck

Sometimes it's so easy to give others advice. We can see clearly what they need to do to improve their lives and the solutions to their problems. When it comes to ourselves, just the thought of our issues overwhelms us so much that we give up without even trying. A voice in our head tells us, "This is way too much for you. You can't do all this!"

We then get a headache, or get sick, or feel suddenly exhausted and wanting to crawl under the covers of our bed. Guilt seeps in, yet what ever still needs to be done, it's placed on the back burner. We barely have energy to get up and go to work or school. If we didn't have to, we would stay in bed all day, or busy ourselves with meaningless things such eating whatever is in front of us (healthy or not), or go into anxiety mode -doing a lot while doing nothing at all.

And more guilt comes. We call ourselves lazy, unmotivated, disorganized and dumb. We punish ourselves by continue doing things that hurt us, more self-deprecating words, more eating (or less), pushing and rejecting ourselves, and neglecting our needs -"we gotta earn it." Until we reach the point when everything starts falling apart and we let it all go, including ourselves. We might wait for the New Years to make a resolution and try one more time to get it together, to lose weight, to finish that project, to change jobs, to move, or do other changes that require some kind of effort. And one more time we seem to disappoint ourselves while guilt and shame takes over our self-esteem.

How can we get out of this rut that keeps us down and blue, or anxious and stressed?
Sometimes we see this as a flaw in our personality. We should be stronger, motivated and on top of it, always, all the time... Right. We force ourselves to run at the same pace others run and we end up tired, resentful and disappointed.

How to change?

We need to look at our attributes and the way we learn and process things. We need to learn more about ourselves and what makes us move, what makes us happy. Maybe we are forcing ourselves to do something we really don't want, or maybe we have these HUGE walls blocking us from getting what we know in our soul is the best thing for us. Sometimes is just not the right time.

How do we know and what do we do about it?

Inner exploration is the key.

Each person is its own universe, governed by its own laws. Our soul guides our journey, only if we let it. We need to listen more to our inner guidance and do less self-reprimand and criticism. By looking at the blockages to experience our potential, we realize that it's not that we are lazy, or disorganized (sometimes we are a bit for a reason) but we have deep beliefs ingrained in us that makes it almost impossible for us to move forward.

There is hope!

By building awareness we can identify these beliefs and clear them all so we can move towards our desired goal. It's not a pretty picture and sometimes it takes courage to admit our own doing, but if are committed to keep growing, these obstacles become smaller and easier to clear as we learn who we truly are.